Marriage Personalities

ISBN: 9780890814765

出版年: 1985-6

定价: 54.00

内容简介

CHAPTER 1
Marriage Opportunities
It had been a full but satisfying day. As my last two patients
left the office??? I loosened my tie??? unbuttoned my collar??? and
leaned back at my desk to catch my breath before heading
home. Eight solid hours of counseling was draining work??? yet
I wasn t quite ready to call it a day. I wanted to review the
cases I had handled.
I thought about my first appointment with a young woman
who had been married only two years. Joan complained about
the loss of love and affection for her husband. She was
infatuated with a fellow employee and wanted to know if God
could lead her out of her present marriage and into another
one. As I probed??? I learned how she was deeply hurt by her
husband s inability to attend to her emotional needs. As a result
she had built a wall around herself??? and gradually the warm???
loving feelings for him had deteriorated. She hadn t gone
looking for an affair??? but the fellow employee had tried to help
her??? and in the process they had fallen in love.
It didn t take long for me to realize that Joan was in an
Active-Passive marriage relationship??? with elements of a Kid s
marriage also present. She was frustrated that her husband
would not take an active role in the relationship??? and her
immaturity had led her to look elsewhere for fulfillment. As
1 reviewed with her the dynamics of a third-party relationship???
I explained that--based on my years of experience as a coun-
selor-the likelihood of it succeeding was remote. Also??? she
would miss out on a significant opportunity for personal
development if she escaped from her marriage relationship.
When our hour was up??? she agreed to bring her husband with
her to the next appointment.
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